I wrote this spell last year for my bestie and me. We performed it on the spring solstice. You can do it alone or with a group.
Days
of the Week Best for the Spell
Monday for love
and self-healing
Friday for love
(I performed mine on
the spring equinox for renewal and rebirth)
Candles
Pink for Self
Love
Red for
Confidence
Black for
letting go
Crystals
Rose Quartz-
self love
Rhodochrosite –
opens heart, improves self worth, release pain and the past
Selenite-
healing, cleansing
Amethyst-
stability, peace, protection
Sodalite
- self esteem
Incense: Rose
Minerals,
Herbs, and Oils
Pink Himalayan
Salt- healing, cleansing, protection
Rose Petals -
love
Lavender-
healing and protection
Rose Water or
Rose Oil – love
Bergamot –
confidence and harmony
Rosemary- Banish
negativity, healing, protection
Cinnamon –
strength and love
Tarot
Cards
The Empress- indulge your
senses, self care, letting go,
allowing yourself to experience what you enjoy. The Empress knows that in order to care
for others, we must first take care of ourselves.
Ace of Cups- a new
start, set yourself free from patterns of self-hatred or low self-esteem, and
start giving yourself the love that you deserve.
Personal Symbols for Self-Love Jar
Choose small objects that represent you and things you love
that you can place in the jar. If you can’t find objects you can print out
images that represent you and things you love.
Choose a recent image of yourself. Not
something from when you were younger or thinner or whatever “er”. Choose an
image of yourself now, something that you think makes you look/feel
pretty/strong/confident, etc., that showcases your best features, or that you
like just because. Print it in a size that will fit inside the jar of your
choice.
Accessories for Self-Love Jar
Seashells
Red feathers
Red and pink glitter
Hearts
To prepare for the spell spend
some time in the days before working on self-forgiveness. Meditate and write a
letter of forgiveness to yourself or make a list of things you are forgiving
yourself for.
To start the spell cleanse
yourself (sage, selenite, sound, etc.) then cast a circle (cast it around the
entire house so moving around doesn’t break it).
I
call upon the North, element of Earth, please nurture us and lend your
strength. I call upon East, element of air, please share your clarity and
wisdom. I call upon South, element of fire, we need your confidence. I call
upon west, element of water; please share with us your compassion. I call upon Spirit;
please lend us your guidance and light. Please circle us tonight protect us
while we do magic share your power with us.
We
welcome the Goddess to our circle, to join us on this spring equinox to bless
us with your gift of renewal and rebirth. We come out of the darkness of winter
and we shall bloom and rejoice in this new cycle of love and healing.
As you light the incense and
gather your materials call upon the Goddess
I
call upon the Goddess to set me free
To
break the chains binding me
to
the hatred of the image I see in the mirror
Set
me free from self loathing
Stop
my continuous replay of my mistakes and failures
Help
me to let go
Help
me to forgive myself
Help
me love myself
Goddess
please hear my plea
Help
me learn to love me
As
I will so mote it be
Cut letter into strips
Light a black candle and use it
to set the trips of your letter or list of forgiveness on fire.
Put them in the cauldron.
As it all burns envision letting
go of it all.
Let go of all those things that
were weighing you down and holding you back.
Say these words:
I
forgive myself
I
let the flames take it all away
I
let it all go
I
burn away the past
I
burn away the pain
I
burn away the fear
I
burn away the self hatred
I
burn away the blame
I
forgive myself
I
am safe
I
am loved
I
am free
I
am forgiven
After everything has burned and
the flames go out it is time to raise your vibration.
Do something that raises your energy and
vibration- listen to music, dance, use singing bowls, meditate…
Once
you have raised your vibration come back to the spell area and light the pink
and red candles.
Light the rose incense.
Call upon the Goddess
Goddess
hear my plea
Open
my eyes to the beauty inside me
Help
me accept that I am strong, I am worthy, I am wise, I am deserving
Goddess
help me see all that is amazing about me
As
I will so mote it be
Now write a love letter to
yourself. Describe all the things you love about yourself. Talk about the
gratitude you have for your body, your brain, the things about you that are
positive, that you love. Be kind and loving to yourself like you would if you
were writing to your best friend.
When your letter is complete put
in it an envelope or fold it small enough to fit in your jar. Seal it with wax.
Now start putting together your
jar. Make it pretty.
Put your letter in the jar.
Seal the jar with wax. Tie a ribbon
or string around the jar.
Release the elements of the circle.
Place the jar on your altar or
somewhere you will see it daily.
(c) Roxanne Rhoads 2022
